Sunday, December 9, 2007
Are We On The Right Track?
While we were putting together our dossier it was hard to think about anything else except completing all that paperwork. It was a work in progress that had a light at the end of the tunnel and it was all up to us how fast or how slow we got it all done. Now that our dossier has been finished and is at the consulate I feel like I have become less patient, things are out of our hands. I know that international adoption has cycles of things moving along and then slowing down. It has been a hard past couple of weeks with reading other blogs. The blogs are a great source of great information and also a source of hope and inspiration to hear the stories of other families. The blogs can also be a source of disappointment when things don't work out for a family. Sometimes all the information can make your head spin. People have great things to say about their agencies and then there are people who don't have a good experience. It can make you question your own path. Dusty and I feel that Kaz is still the right path for us. We really feel like our child is in Kaz.
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We had the hardest time being patient when our dossier was at the consulate, especially since it was there for the full 8 weeks. Hang in there, you will perservere. I know what you mean about your head spinning - there were (are)times Aaron would have to tell me to get off the listserves and blogs to gain perspective on our process. There is good and bad to everyone's journey. Hang in there and keep following your heart!
I know what you mean. I'm not sure if you follow our blog, but we were going through the same anxiet about what to do. We did change agencies because we felt that our child was in Kaz but were unsure about continuing with our agency. If you have any questions, don't hestitate to contact us. ruley at tampabay.rr.com
Hi Bakers,
I am also waiting for my child from Kazakhstan--my dossier ia in Kaz now and has been since October. I feel exactly the same way you do when reading the blogs. There are stories of great inspiration, like the Woods, and stories of heartbreak that make your head spin. I was recently given the advice to pray, be patient, and trust that my child was there waiting for me. it is good advice and I am trying to follow it. I also feel like I should take a break from all the blogging but that is hard to do and it does provide great info so anyway--just hang in there.
hello
Keep up the patience. We used a different agency 4 years ago when we adopted our daughter from Russia. That whole process was 6 months, start to finish. Kid you not. Amazing. We applied in November, completed our dossier in a month, and brought our daughter home mid-May. This time around, we originally applied with our current agency, same as yours, in March 2005 for Colombia. At the beginning of this year, 2007, we realized Colombia just wasn't moving, so we switched to Kazakhstan. This required new home study, new I-600A, new dossier. We submitted it in June and it's been at MOFA since September. Now we wait. We've been waiting a long time, are busy, and already have two children, so perhaps it's easier. However, I'm looking forward to the fruit of this process!
Every one is going to have a different timeline, and once it happens, before you know it, you'll look at your beautiful child four years later, or more, and realize the wait was nothing, no matter how long it is. Once they are your child, it will be that way forever, and you have the opportunity to impact them, and they you, for eternity.
I had the opposite reaction - once the dossier was out of our hands I felt relieved and much less anxious knowing that fate has now taken over. It helps having faith in the agency and it would be difficult if you are doubting that. Our dossier went through translation and the consultate really fast but has now been bogged down at the MFA with the holidays in Kaz. Hang in there! And enjoy your final weeks/months before adding a new family member... we've scheduled a "babymoon" to take our mind off of things and enjoy one last child-free trip for awhile.
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I remember that phase. It is so, so tough to wait while there is nothing you can do to help move things along. It is all so worth it though when you finally travel. When you get that invitation you are suddenly wondering how you can get ready so soon.
Hang in there. The good part is coming.
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